What’s goodie (in my best YouTube intro)! Lemme stop lol because I don’t have a YouTube…yet! But I am definitely trying to figure out the best way to add a more personal touch to my blog and brand in general, so my readers can get more of a feel for the girl behind the blog. I must say that’s part of the reason for my absence, and I do apologize for being MIA.
It’s just that I really want you all to get to experience more of my personality by being able to hear me and possibly even see me, so I have been contemplating how this can happen. Let me know what you think about a YouTube channel or a podcast to go along with my blog in the comments! (Would you watch/listen?) Let me know in the comments below!
But anyway, how have you all been? What’s goodie? What’s new? What’s poppin’?
I can tell y’all something new with me since the last time I posted! Ya girl turned 23 on June 22nd! YESSIR! It’s my Jordan Year!! I posted my dope video and pictures that my brother (IG: @thekidshotit) shot on my Instagram @ekai.la back in June/July! If you don’t already follow me, follow me! But check out this collage of the pics!
So, I’ve been holding out on this post on seven things I’ve learned by now and decided, I’ll go ahead and spill it.
So tap in!
Lesson #1: Let go of the need to know how everything goes.
I’m always am trying to put every piece of my life together and make things happen in my time. The gag is life doesn’t work that way. But, I have learned to let go of wanting to control everything. If I knew every aspect of my life already, there would be no need for God to be present. So, less control, more faith.
Lesson #2: Say What You Need to Say. Don’t hold back.
Oof! I can’t even lie this has been tough to do. I am learning more now than ever that it’s not good to suppress things! I have been practicing not holding back and just saying exactly how I feel. No sugarcoating. No filters. Just honesty.
Lesson 3: Choose Happiness Over History
Letting go is probably the hardest but realest lesson I have had to learn, especially this year. I have learned that someone you met two months ago can rock with you harder than someone you’ve known for 2+ years. History is not necessarily an indication of loyalty. Sometimes, you have to let go and let things be because trying to force stuff does more damage.
Lesson 4: Self- Care is a NECESSITY, not a LUXURY
Take care of yourself because you can’t pour from an empty cup. There is no way you can continuously give of yourself without being replenished. Being a giver can be mad draining. Take some time to do something you enjoy! You only get one body, so make sure you take care of it! Also, your mental health is just as important as your physical. Take it easy!
Lesson 5: Heavy on the Self-Love
I think self-love and self-care go hands in hand! I am learning to accept myself for who I am, including my flaws and lil things I don’t really like about myself. I am continually working on myself and focused on my personal growth. Also, I like to remind myself what God says about me being His masterpiece (Ephesians 2:10).
Lesson 6: Stop caring so much about what people think!
For too long, I was caught up in what people thought, it stopped me from doing so many things I wanted to do. But the older I get, the more I realize life is too short to be living for others’ approval. If you live according to others’ approval and validation, you’ll die from its absence.
Lesson 7: Better an “oops” than a “what if”.
Take that risk! You know that thing you really wanna do, but your fear and self-doubt have caught you slipping and caused you to do nothing, just do it! Imagine allowing your life to pass you by while you live in fear only to look back one day and realize how much you regret not doing. it’s a no for me. I have decided to take some risks, and switch things up!
There are more lessons that I have learned in my 23 years, but I feel like these seven lessons have probably been the most recurring lessons. With life, I am trying my best to be teachable and understand it’s not always something the other person does. I do wrong as well and have to be willing to admit that and grow from it.
Anyways, thank you all for rocking with me even in my absence! Again, please let me know your thoughts on me making a YouTube channel or a podcast to go along with my blog in the comments! (Would you watch/listen?)
